Round Table Discussion – Submission Is the Definition of Sexy

I am so excited for us all to come together again as a spanking community for week two of the Round Table Discussion - Community, Spanking, & More! This week our very special host is Natasha Knight who is one of my favorite authors and dear friends! This week we were asked to define what submission means to us. Be forewarned, this is a bit steamier than you may be used to from me. :-)

I am not a natural submissive. I am the master of my own mind, ruler of my body, independent, spirited, and I like to be in control. It takes a special touch to draw out my submissive state. It takes a worthy touch. I need to be able to respect him in order to submit to him. Once he has that respect all it takes is a hand in my hair drawing my head back commanding my attention and a look in his eye. It’s a little predatory, a little no nonsense, and sexy as hell!

There is nothing like the dance of a dominant and a submissive. To me it’s intoxicating. For me submission is a huge gift and it is also a very primal thing. Not just anyone can bring out this gift and take use of it. My inner submissive can only be called up by her exact dominant match. There is an air and energy to it, and there is almost a scent. Once called up she will be that essence of sheer female to his essence of sheer male.

If he can bring it out I will do anything that he says. My inner submissive finds his inner dominant worthy and vice versa. Submitting to a man who can command my very soul is the greatest privilege on earth. I will suck his cock, offer my ass, and do anything he bids. He is my Master.

I have to say there is a little something (or a big something) to being made to submit. Punishment makes my knees go weak. I just can’t help but test the boundaries every now and then. I crave the feel of him making me submit to him. I enjoy the chase. There is nothing more humbling or that will make me feel more submissive than being ordered panties down over his lap for a sound bare bottom spanking, hopefully with a hairbrush in his hand.

In fact that’s why domestic discipline works so well for me. When doing the dishes and paying the bills is a constant turn on and I have an intimacy with my Husband others long to have then something must be working. When I test those boundaries and he takes me in hand I will lovingly serve every one of his needs and lavish him with my adoration and passion for him. Until the next time I need to be taken in hand and then the primal dance begins again.

Now make sure to visit Spanking Romance Reviews for more of the Round Table Discussion on what submission means to them! We have some amazing guest bloggers that you don't want to miss! Click the graphic below and enjoy!

Round Table Discussion - Spanking Beginnings & Fantasies Come True

I am so excited to be participating in a new feature over on the Spanking Romance Review Blog! Several of us have started an ongoing Round Table Discussion pertaining to hot button issues of the spanking community! Every two weeks we will discuss a new topic that is near and dear to the spanking community’s heart. After you read this blog head on over to SRR’s blog to see our debut post and find the links to the other participant’s responses!

This week’s discussion is led by yours truly! I've always been fascinated by how others discovered their interest in spanking & how they have explored it. So on that note here is this week’s discussion questions:

1.  When did you first know you were interested in spanking, and the surrounding ideas that come with it?


2. When did you finally cross over from fantasies to bringing it into real life? (Or has that yet to happen?)

I've been a spanko I think my entire life. From Ken spanking Barbie or Barbie spanking Barbie it's always been there. I remember looking up spanking in the dictionary over and over and in every new dictionary I could find. I tried to incorporate spanking with a few of my high school boyfriends, but I really don't think they thought I was being serious. I did have one spanking experience with my long time high school boyfriend. We were just joking around and it turned into so much more. I literally went weak in the knees when he pulled his belt out of its loop’s and made me bend over for a spanking. I had never been so turned on in my life. Sadly that relationship was over, but it left a burning desire in my mind (and fantasies!)

I met my husband a couple years later. We had a whirlwind romance and were married within only two months (with three kids between us.) There was a lot of playful spanking, but with so many kids under five we were just never really able to fully develop this kink. Throughout the years after we had a fight I would fantasize about him taking me over his knee and spanking me soundly then placing me in the corner. I didn't tell him during those years about the desire because I was terrified about giving up that kind of control. We were also both pretty staunchly feminist, so I kept those fantasies to myself.

At about the five year mark I started re-awakening sexually. The spanking play began again and it was great! One day as I perused the web for spanking stories and videos I stumbled across a CDD web page. Let me tell you it resonated from the top of my head to the tip of my toes. It was a huge light bulb moment! I remembered seeing Bethany's community (before she created Blushing Books.) They had a forum where couples practiced DD but it wasn't clearly defined as DD is today. This CDD site was a few pages and it described to a T exactly what I wanted and needed! I could combine my sexual need for spanking with my goals for in marriage and our household. I was a hopeless slob, hormones got the best of me more times than not, and I wanted his dominance so very much. I have found that DD appeals to me because I like having a purpose for the spanking. I like adding it into daily life. It makes getting things done so much more appealing. I am ever the practical Capricorn!

It turned out I was too chicken to follow through with bringing DD up to him then. I tried, but backed down at the first look of incredulous. I didn't even take the time to explain. It wasn't for another four YEARS that I made my second (and final) attempt. I enjoyed the play, but I wanted the real thing. And I got it! Hubby reacted well to my second attempt. I explained way better this time! I even got my first discipline spanking that week. It's funny that I forget what it was for now. I just remember how weird it was. It felt so scripted and like we were playing pretend. He had me bend over the bed, lower my panties, and he spanked me a little bit with his hand and then used the ping pong paddle about 10 times. He kept asking if he was hurting me and if I was okay. I remember coming away feeling like I hadn't been punished at all. He was so scared that he was going to bruise me or hurt me for real. It took him a little bit of time to get past that, but let me tell you he has gotten past it!!

Over the years DD has taken different forms. In the beginning I really wanted that DD fantasy that I had always read about in books. As time went on we realized that didn't really work for us. It works better when we pick our goals or spankable offences and if I ask him for a spanking when I feel guilty or when I need it. He has become so much more confident and dominant. And boy is it HOT!! He has dominance in the bedroom honed to a science. YUM YUM YUM! We are very adventurous and in DD and out of DD have ventured to many other aspects aside from spanking. I'm not sure how to explain why spanking works so well when I am a spanko, but they do. This whole dynamic works well. There is a difference between punishment spankings and maintenance, stress relief, or play spankings. Sometimes it's just the tone of the whole thing. Whatever it is it works for us.

Fantasy has become reality in many ways. I know that I have many more fantasies to come true in the future as well! That’s why I keep reading those smoking hot spanking romances! So spanking romance authors keep on writing and fueling those fantasies!!

How did you first discover you were interested in spanking? Have you experienced that moment where fantasy becomes reality? I would LOVE to hear your experiences as well!

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