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Thursday, November 20, 2014
#Spanking Round Table: Where Does Your Spanking Fancy Come From?
Welcome to the newest Spanking Round Table Discussion hosted this week by Spanking Romance Reviews and Joelle Casteel.
Here are the questions that Joelle presented to us.
.* How do you understand the difference between an ownership- or a humiliation-focus in writing and/or in real life?
* If you live some level of DD, BDSM, include spanking in your relationship- do your practices focus more on ownership or humiliation?
* When you’re reading spanking fiction, do you have a preference for either of these focuses? Or does it even matter to you?
* And of course, feel free to add your own comments and questions- after all, I come to this conversation as a reader of DD/spanking fiction, but an author of BDSM fiction.
I will try to answer them and add my own thoughts into the mix. I want to start off by saying I don't think there are right or wrong answers to any of these. I think it is a matter of perspective, personal experience, and most importantly semantics. I believe the terms used today are misunderstood in the context that they are used. While I do not consider myself owned I do want to be loved, cared for, and dominated. I desire a partner that has more say so than I do, but who does it with our mutual best interests in mind. Though for me personally the term owned has negative connotations to the point of possibly being a trigger (unless used exclusively sexually) I understand that being owned to one person is the same as being under the care of a loving HOH or Dominant to another. Maybe the word means the exact same thing or is similar enough to be comparable with subtle differences.
Humiliation on the surface does not seem to be comparable to being owned. It's not an either/or situation. However, in the context of someone defining being owned as feeling loved and cared for I can see it's opposite affect. Humiliation is one of those words that are used in the spanking community that have multiple definitions. Humiliation is defined on Wikipedia as:
an abasement of pride, which creates mortification or leads to a state of being humbled or reduced to lowliness or submission. It is an emotion felt by a person whose social status has just decreased. It can be brought about through intimidation, physical or mental mistreatment or trickery, or by embarrassment if a person is revealed to have committed a socially or legally unacceptable act. Whereas humility can be sought alone as a means to de-emphasize the ego, humiliation must involve other person(s), though not necessarily directly or willingly. Acting to humiliate oneself may be linked to a personal belief (as with mortification of the flesh, with some religions), or it can be part of erotic humiliation where the belittling activity provides emotional and/or sexual arousal or heightened sensation.
While I can see where Joelle is coming from in seeing humiliation as an unloving act in reading certain aspects of the above definition. I think the fine line is where the individual person defines it and the affect it has on the person who feels humiliated. I would feel humiliated in a negative way if my husband dressed me down (called me out/lectured) in public. It would erode my trust. While the humiliation that many of us spoke about during the last round table discussion was the kind of humiliation that comes with being humbled or submitting. Certain acts of being taken in hand, disciplined, or even certain sexual acts may create a feeling of embarrassment or exposure and a deep desire to submit, but it is not the harmful type of humiliation. As long as our boundaries are being respected it is a loving gesture.
Last discussion's topic for me falls into the deliciously humiliating realm. I may not be able to get beyond my inhibitions to try this type of play without my husband's dominant act. I personally like to be actively taken in hand. I like the dominance and the feeling of not being in control. So we add these things into the punishment category. It works because it creates a deep feeling of submission. I am not naturally submissive and I like to be made to submit. That is part of my kink. It has to be done in a firm but loving way or I would not feel safe.
In spanking stories I like for the dominant/hoh to be firm and loving. In these stories I prefer one partner being in charge with the other partner submissive but cared for, valued, and listened to. Domestic Discipline is fraction or discipline focused and that is what I enjoy reading the most (although I do like a lot of variety.) I enjoy reading about the discipline in detail, especially spanking scenes. Mild non-con is hot to me in fiction. (The real life solution to this is consensual non-consent. Aka: a blanket permission. True real life non-con would have me calling the police!) In these stories the heroine tends to eventually if not at the time feel safe and cared for and even turned on by this. If there was ever true humiliation I would not enjoy the story, but the kind of humiliation that leads to being humbled and learning is hot to me.
In summary I think that many differences in the community boil down a couple things. One big one is semantics. Our differing definitions and connotations of certain words. That is hugely prevalent even with those that come from similar backgrounds. Another is whether the relationship is Discipline/submission focused or Submission/sexual bdsm focused. Don't get me wrong, for many couples who practice the former it is sexual as well, but in a much more subtle way and that is a whole other topic. I think in the end when the differences come to the forefront of the conversation we have to take a step back and decide okay this might be negative for me, but is positive for them and that is okay. Live and let live and try to find your common points. We are all valid and we should stand proud in what we like and who we are. There is nothing wrong with that.
Saturday, November 8, 2014
#SatSpanks 11/8/14 A Brush of Violet #CorbinsBend
Welcome to my stop on the Saturday Spankings Blog hop! This is my first Saturday Spanks since the release of my debut novella A Brush of Violet, the third book of the Corbin's Bend series second season. I am still riding high! This has definitely been a very special experience for me. When you're done reading today's snippet take a minute to visit this post to enter to win a $10 Amazon gift card! Today I'm sharing a little snippet from Violet's first disciplinary spanking. The Corbin's Bend blog is hosting me today as well for SS, so take a minute to visit there to read the first eight sentences of this scene! Also, tomorrow night Spanking Romance Reviews is hosting my release party! For more details and the link to the party visit the bottom of this page. I hope to see you there!
“When we agreed on the rules, did you agree or not to refrain from taking work calls on the weekends?” he asked as he stood to walk a little ways behind her.
She heard the jingle of his belt as he unfastened it sending shivers down her spine. “Yes, sir, I agreed.” Her voice came out muffled from where she had buried her head in her arms again. She gasped as she heard his belt come free of its loops with a whoosh.
“And what did we agree would be the consequences?” The authority in his voice caused her to melt with desire and quake with fear in equal measures.
High powered business woman, Violet Walker, has long left her artistic days behind. That is until her best friend, Everleigh Harris, invites her to Corbin's Bend for an art festival. What Everleigh doesn't know is that Violet hasn't been able to paint a single brush stroke since turning her back on her submissive desires and spanking needs in college. When she meets charismatic and drop dead gorgeous Charles her world is turned completely upside down. Will Violet, overworked, burnt out, and in denial of her deepest wants and desires, be able to surrender when love knocks on her door?
Charles Robinson, President of the discipline Board in Corbin’s Bend and longtime resident, adores the community he lives in and the freedom it provides for all who live there. Raised in a traditional family; love and discipline are a way of life for him. There’s nothing he wants more than a marriage just like his parents where spanking and romance go hand in hand, even if that means holding out for true love. Is Violet just the kind of woman he’s looking for?
Will Violet risk the life she’s built for herself in blood, sweat, and tears for the undeniable connection she has with Charles, the utter bliss and contentment she feels when she’s over his lap? Can Charles convince Violet she really can have it all? Will this trip be just what she needs to rekindle all that she has lost since joining the corporate world?
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Friday, October 10, 2014
#Spanking Round Table: Anal Punishment, Hot or Not? #Anal #spankinground
It seems like it's been a long time since I've participated in a Round Table discussion. These discussions are always so much fun! Thank you Spanking Romance Reviews for hosting such thought provoking and fun topics!
There is something about anal punishment that makes my heart beat faster, my breath quicken, and that turns me on like almost nothing else. There was a time when spanking alone did that to me and certainly still does, but when combined with that little bit of extra spice it launches me right out into orbit.
It seems that once upon a time spanking authors for the most part kept their books strictly to spanking. In the last few years something has been changing. Authors are branching out into even more taboo areas; extending the discipline to make it just a little bit naughtier. In the same way that rectal temperature taking gave me a little extra thrill when watching a spanking video the launch into anal punishment in books has done the same for me and more.
A few years ago I stumbled onto Jennie May's Church of the Illuminated series. Wow! Talk about taboo. The moment one of the HOH's inserted a finger into his TIH's rectum to get her attention during a lecture was one that I haven't been able to get out of my mind since (and it's something my husband teases me about to this day!) There were special implements made to spank that special area and more. Something clicked that day and I will admit the tamer novels have lost a little bit of their appeal although there are always exceptions.
Anal play and anal sex don't do the same things to me. There definitely has to be an element of dominance and authority. Whether it's anal spanking, ginger root, creams or soapstick discipline count me in!
Now, I know not everyone agrees. I have several friends who love a good old fashioned spanking novel and would prefer anything spicier to be kept out. What are your thoughts on the subject? What is the thing that gets your heart pumping the fastest in your favorite erotic novel?
There is something about anal punishment that makes my heart beat faster, my breath quicken, and that turns me on like almost nothing else. There was a time when spanking alone did that to me and certainly still does, but when combined with that little bit of extra spice it launches me right out into orbit.
It seems that once upon a time spanking authors for the most part kept their books strictly to spanking. In the last few years something has been changing. Authors are branching out into even more taboo areas; extending the discipline to make it just a little bit naughtier. In the same way that rectal temperature taking gave me a little extra thrill when watching a spanking video the launch into anal punishment in books has done the same for me and more.
A few years ago I stumbled onto Jennie May's Church of the Illuminated series. Wow! Talk about taboo. The moment one of the HOH's inserted a finger into his TIH's rectum to get her attention during a lecture was one that I haven't been able to get out of my mind since (and it's something my husband teases me about to this day!) There were special implements made to spank that special area and more. Something clicked that day and I will admit the tamer novels have lost a little bit of their appeal although there are always exceptions.
Tuesday, September 9, 2014
Summer Spanks Prize Winners!
Thank you so much for participating in the Summer Spanks blog hop! I had so much fun! I hope you did too. It's time for the prize winner announcement!
Grand prize winners:
Grand prize winners:
- Kindle or Nook from Blushing Books - Kristin Brio!
- $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon from Stormy Night Publications - Megan Michaels!
- $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon from Baronet Press - Sarah Young!
- One month membership to Pandora Blake’s Dreams of Spanking - Adaline Raine!
- Hand made paddle from Blondie’s Place - Jule Kijek!
- $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon from Wizards in Publishing - Alice Gottschall!
- You can have it all package by Variant Books - Jolynn Raymond!
- Six month membership to Discipline & Desire - Leigh Smith!
- $25 GC from Jolynn Raymond - Holla Dean!
- An ebook package from LearningDD - Cat Trouble!
- Ebook Cover Design & Matching Facebook Cover Picture from Kandes Pixels - Roz in His Hands!
Kyra Tinker!!!!
Be on the lookout for an email from me, Kyra!
Friday, August 1, 2014
Summer Spanks Blog Hop is Almost Here!
I can barely contain my excitement that Summer Spanks is almost here! I can think of nothing better to celebrate the Summer with one big last hurrah. My favorite part of the blog hop is that anyone in the spanking community with a blog can join in. Please don't be shy, I would love to see some new faces! Help spread the word by grabbing a graphic to post on your blog or FB page linking back to sign ups on SRR or SS. Here are all of the details:
Announcing Summer Spanks: Last Flings or Lessons Learned
September 5-7 2014
Open to everyone in the spanking community!
It’s the end of summer which means, either last chance for a Summer fling, or back to school. Each participating blog will create a post based on the summer or back to school spanking theme. This can include a short story, poem, graphics/artwork, or any other creative avenue that you specialize in. Tell us a funny story, share an experience, it can be anything you dream of as long as it’s good clean spanking fun! No explicit nudity please. Bare bottoms are, of course, welcome!
We have some wonderful Grand Prizes & more rolling in every day!
- Kindle or Nook (Blushing Books)
- $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon (Stormy Night Publications
- $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon (Baronet Press)
- One month membership to Pandora Blake’s Dreams of Spanking
- Hand made paddle from Blondie’s Place
- $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon from Wizards in Publishing
- Much, much more!
What’s required to participate?
- Sign up by entering the linky list below (create a draft of your blog hop post & enter the url to the post you created into the sign up)
- Grab the graphic & add it to your side bar linking it to http://spankingromance.com/the-june-spanking-a-z-challenge-spanka2z/
- You must offer an individual prize on your own blog, post links to the main blog hop post and prize entry, display blog hop graphic, & include linky list of all other participants (or link to linky list if you have wordpress)
- Have your post up by 12:01 am EST on September 5th
- All contest winners should be announced on Monday, September 8h
- Spread the word!
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Thursday, January 2, 2014
Winter Spanks (#winterspanks:) Cold Hands, Warm Bottoms Blog Hop
Brought to you by Spanking Romance Reviews & The Saturday Spankings Blog!
Thank you for joining us for Winter Spanks! Let’s warm up with some hot bottoms & enjoy some cool prizes! Click on the links above for all of the wonderful prizes that you can win. Each blog that you visit will also have some amazing giveaways as well. For my blog I will be giving away a $10 gift certificate to Amazon to one lucky entrant. All you have to do to win is leave a comment on my blog sharing with me your favorite way to warm up during the winter and if spanking has anything to do with it!
I am super excited to enjoy the Winter Spanks fun to full hilt! I've been anticipating this event for so long! It's bound to be a blast! I can't believe all of the talented writers, bloggers, reviewers, graphic artists, and more that we have joining us in the fun!
I am sharing my very first publicly posted short story. I hope you all enjoy! There are many more where this comes from. Let me know in your comments what you thought and if you like spanking stories with an ethereal twist.
An Angel’s Chance
Caitlyn felt the world whirling around her as she was swept from one end of the dance floor to the other. She laughed as she danced from one partner to the next. New Year’s Eve had never been so much fun. The feeling of warm bodies, loud music, and the freedom to do whatever the hell she wanted was as intoxicating to her as the shots of whiskey and rum she had been drinking all night in celebration of the New Year and new beginnings.
Her first order of business was a firm resolution of no more men! From her short experience it was apparent that all they were out for is to see how much they could get from you. They would suck you dry if you let them. And she had let him.
Well no more! It was her turn to use them! Her brother had warned her about Rodney, but all she saw was that southern charm, those sparkling eyes, and his ability to make her lose her pants faster than a cowboy can say yeehaw.
Charm proved to be deceiving. It wasn’t long before he was swindling her into paying his bills while he drank the day away. It started with a sob story and quickly avalanched before she even realized what was happening. It all culminated at walking in on him cheating on her today.
Well she had enough of all of that. Screw responsibility. It was time she took a page from everyone else book and lived a little.
*****
The petite blond with hazel eyes had haunted his dreams for as long as he could remember. Chad had picked up this second job at the Wild Tree Bar & Grill to tuck away some savings to invest in a little bungalow in the woods where he could own his own little piece of earthly heaven. The angel Agnes has given him a reprieve of one human lifetime so that he could experience the life that he aided others in so well. For Chad this meant not only human relationships but communing with the land and the very earth around him.
Chad would never forget the first time he laid eyes on the spunky Caitlyn. She was working hard to get through nursing school and her nose was always in a book or she was rushing out for classes putting in long hours. He loved how her laugh would fill the house. She wasn’t at all intimidated by being the only girl in a house full of guys. There were always fresh cookies baked and flowers on the table & home cooked meals in the fridge to feed the lot of them when they stumbled in at one in the morning.
She worked harder than she had to which probably meant she was harder on herself than necessary. It was all goals and no nonsense. She did not take the time to go out, but she was always freshly feminine and as sweet as could be.
Everything he knew about her was at odds with what he was seeing tonight. What the hell was she thinking?! It was all he could do not to give into his impulse to yank her away from the latest guy she was dancing with. He could not stand the way those men were looking at her like she was some piece of meat to be devoured.
Next thing he knew Caitlyn was stumbling over to the bar arm in arm with a man way too smug for his liking. Caitlyn giggled and almost fell down. “Whoopsie,” she laughed.” “I’m okay. Hey, Chad. Funny seeing you here,” she slurred. “I’m celebrating my independence. But since you’re taking orders, I’ll take a double shot of Crown.”
The guy she was with gave her a wink and a pat on the bottom. “I’ve got something for you to celebrate, baby.”
Chad’s stomach turned, and it was all he could do not to wipe that smirk right off that asshole’s face. “Caitlyn, what are you doing? You don’t look like you need another drink right now, maybe you should slow down a little bit and have a bit to eat.”
“No, no, no. I don’t need any food. I’m out tonight to have a good time and that is exactly what I’m doing.”
“Well, you’re not going to be having such a good time in the morning when you’re puking your guts out and have a throbbing headache. You need to drink some water and eat some food. I’m not serving you another drink until you do both.”
“Mind your own business, Chad. I’m not the fuddy duddy you think I am. I can have as good of a time as anyone else.”
“You heard the lady,” the guy standing beside her said as his hand found its way into her button down top, “give her her whiskey and back off. We’re doing just fine.”
Chad was fed up with this creep.. “Get your hands off of her,” he growled as he pried the assholes hands off of her. He threw her over his shoulder and stormed towards the back office.
“What the hell are you doing, Chad!” She pounded his back as if that would make a difference. “Put me down!”
He set her down firmly on the couch in the bar’s office.
“You may think you are having a good time, but I’ve known you a good long time and this is not who you are.”
“You do not control me!” she screeched. “I’m sick of men who think they can walk all over me.”
“I don’t know which men you are talking about, but it looked to me like you were letting that “man” out there do anything he pleased. You are smarter than that.”
“Who do you think you are? You’re not my boyfriend, you certainly aren’t my father, you have no right whatsoever to keep me from doing anything that I please.”
“I may not be either of those but if I were, you sure would be getting your butt blistered right now.”
“You wouldn’t dare!” she hissed! “I’m a grown woman with a career, a house, and a good life that I’ve provided for myself. What century are you from?”
“Oh, you’d be surprised.” He rolled his eyes up toward where the other angels were bound to be getting a kick out of this. He looked her square in the eye. “You may be a grown woman, but right now you are acting like a spoiled brat determined to wreck her life in one fail swoop.”
“I am not putting up with this.” She sprung up from the couch and turned towards the door.
“If you take one single step ,I will do exactly what I said, and you, little girl, will be getting the spanking of your life. The way you have been acting tonight is dangerous and you are too important to be putting yourself in jeopardy like this”
She just stared at him in disbelief, but he could see her drunken state embolden her.
“I am leaving, and there is nothing you can do about it.” She strode over to the door.
“Think again,” he said as he scooped her up and put her promptly over his knee as she squeaked.
“What are you doing? Let me up! Let me up!” she frantically squealed as she tried to scramble off of his lap.
“Don’t say I didn’t warn you.” he growled. He pinned her arms with one hand as his other big hard hand rained down on her pert little bottom. “You are not going to throw everything away because of one night of bad decisions.”
“Ow, stop spanking me you big brute! You don’t even know what you’re talking about!”
“I know that you are a beautiful, smart, and strong woman who does not let random men put their paws all over her.” he said punctuating each point with a firm smack to her upturned bottom.
“Shows how much you know,” she grumbled under her breath. “If you knew anything about the last three months of my life you would know better.”
“You will not insult yourself, little girl. I have stood by and watched you disrespect yourself all night, and I’m not going to let it continue.” He picked her up and promptly unsnapped her jeans and pulled them and her panties down to her ankles quickly before putting her back over his knee. He renewed his efforts on her bottom with a vengeance. “You will not talk about yourself in that way,” he said while his hand was striking each cheek three times before moving to the next.
The sharp pain burned so bad it felt like her ass was on fire. He was spanking hard and fast not giving her a chance to catch a breath let alone speak. She balled her fists up just trying to hold on, her little legs kicking with each strike.
She felt him tip her forward in order to concentrate on her sit spot. “You are going to treat yourself with kindness regardless of any mistakes you have made, real or perceived. You are only human and are more than worthy of being treated with respect both from yourself and certainly by the men around you. You will start this new year understanding that point or I will spank you from here until next Sunday if I have to.”
He peppered her thighs with some scorchers to drive his point home.
“I’m sorry! I am! Please just stop spanking me! I get it!”
“I’m going to give you ten more, and then we are going to talk. I want you to count them out.”
His hand landed hard on her right cheek. Oh God she didn’t think she was going to be able to make it through. “Ohh, one.” As soon as she got it out the next was landing even harder on her left cheek. “Two,” she squeaked! The third landed right smack in the middle of her bottom and she swore it hurt even more than the other two. “Three, sir.” Wait, what? Did she just say sir? What was coming over her?! Before she could give it another thought the next one came down. After that the next 6 came rapidly.
When he was done, he gently rubbed her back and her bottom soothing away the pain.
She gingerly picked herself off of his lap feeling awkward standing next to him.
He decided to remedy the situation and not give her time to think. He gathered her into his arms and cradled her the way she would have been as a small child. He smoothed her hair out of her face.
Her face burned with embarrassment. This day could not be more mortifying. And to think he witnessed half of it. What must he think of her. The spanking had done what it was meant to and snapped her out of the muddled thinking that had led her to this mess.
As if reading her mind he spoke in low tones in her ear. “You are one of the most brilliant women I have ever known. You are a bright and shining beacon of light in a lost world. Caitlyn, I think I’ve been in love with you from the very first time I met you. I just can’t stand to see you mistreated and especially treating yourself with such disregard. You deserve to be treated like a queen not like something to be tossed away.”
She just cried softly. How did she get so far away from who she was? Thank God Chad was there tonight to bring her back to her senses. She cuddled deep into his arms her hand finding it’s way to stoke his stomach. His stomach was as soft as an angel’s wings! She had forgotten how whole she felt when Chad was around. Her feelings for him were so much deeper than friendship.
She nuzzled into his neck just as he whispered, “Caitlyn I don’t think I can let you go this time.”
“Just kiss me, she murmured into his lips.” He leaned in brushing her soft lips with his gently at first and then deeper with hunger. She tasted like sweetness and sunshine. He felt something inside of him switch on in a way that he had never experienced before. It felt like home.
At that very moment they heard the crowd in the bar yell 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, HAPPY NEW YEAR!
They gazed into each other’s eyes as one soft white feather fluttered to the ground in front of them. Chad laughed, and whispered his thanks to the angels above for allowing him his chance at love.
The End
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