Round Table Discussion: Feminism & Spanking

This is how I feel about my spanking needs & my freedom to express them. Having this outlet makes me feel like I have super powers. I can accomplish anything. Spanking gives me the outlet I need & focuses me in a way that I am a much more productive human being. I am grateful beyond measure that I have this option in my life. After all, even Wonder Woman needs a good spanking every now and again.

I feel like all things healthy, empowering, & good boil down to one thing…choice. Feminism has gone a long way to provide that choice to women. It was not long ago that women were owned first by their fathers and then later by their husbands. They had no choice except what was permitted by those in charge of them. They had no real voice at home or in public. There were no repercussions if either of these men hurt or abused them on any level.  While it’s true that families remained intact far more often than they do today, & it was socially acceptable for wives to obey their husbands, these two things do not equal happiness While it would be nice to have my chosen lifestyle weather in the bedroom or as a whole relationship style with my husband to be accepted and not ostracized by mainstream society I also value my choice in the matter heart and soul. I value my freedom and ability to choose what kind of life I live to the molecules of my being. Feminism has done wonders for this world.

At the root of the matter, though, I am a humanist. I value human rights above all else. I think my DD sisters who feel nostalgic for a time when tearing down your husband wasn’t socially acceptable have a point. A woman having equal rights & value does not mean that treating men with disdain should be acceptable too. Love & respect in marriage & society would be ideal. It is also what I strive for in my own life. My husband is not stupid & neither am I. Neither of us deserves to be treated as if we are.  I don’t think going back in time will solve this dilemma. It trades one set of mistreatment for another. In history there are many examples of the pendulum swinging. This is just one example of that. Many times when a group of people have been oppressed for a time once that oppression is lifted it is natural for the pendulum to swing in the other direction.  We over compensate for past slights. Eventually that pendulum will rest right in the middle. I am hoping we will find that happy medium in this realm soon.

I am so grateful that my sisters & brothers before me fought for my human rights & my rights to choose. Because of that fight I get to choose to explore a spanking fetish & lifestyle. My husband and I were able to choose to explore spanking in the bedroom & later choose to incorporate a DD lifestyle by agreement in our marriage. Surrendering in this set of circumstances makes me happy. Having my rear end reddened both in the bedroom and as discipline helps make my world go round. Just as choosing to be a stay at home mom, writer, & holistic health care practitioner have added great quality to my life. Without feminism I would have none of this.

Before I end this I also have to address the thought that is floating out there that choosing to be spanked or to submit to someone else is in some way dis-empowering to females & a setback to feminism. As a choice that is incredibly empowering to me who is to judge what empowers whom? Just as it was unfair many years ago to be controlled by one set of very limiting beliefs on what is wrong and what is right it is just as wrong today no matter which side you are on. Being taken across a man’s knee to be spanked is an intimate act that should have been agreed upon at some point previously. Consent is the key factor. Your views may not be my views. Your wants may not be my wants. That is the beauty of a free society. We have the obligation to remember to live and let live. It may not be your choice, but it may very well make someone else happy.

What I have taken out of all of this is that if I want everyone to live freely and be accepted in the life choice they make with anyone else who is also actively agreeing then I owe it to myself & the world around me to live authentically. I must be who I am not just at home, but in the world. The more we show the world how many people & how many choices there really are the more the world will come into balance.

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