Happy Birthday Adaline Raine!

The Birthday Spanking Crew is officially on duty! It's Addy's birthday and we wanted to make it extra special for her today!

Addy is a special gift to this community and I'm so glad that we are celebrating her today. She has designed so many amazing graphics for many of the major blog hops in this community including Spank or Treat, Winter Spanks, & Summer Spanks among others. In my first six months of being included in this community her blog was one of my favorite stops (& still is!) The graphics always blow me away and her interviews are simply the best!

Above all, Addy you have been such a good friend to me. I am grateful for you every day! On this day I hope that you keep the spark flaming deep inside you. I hope that you never forget who you are and that you are worth everything good that you can imagine and fantasize. I wish you a year full of true friends, happy family, deep and abiding love, and all of your dreams come true.

Now blow out your candles and make a wish!

 

#Spanking Round Table: Where Does Your Spanking Fancy Come From?

Welcome to the newest Spanking Round Table Discussion hosted this week by Spanking Romance Reviews and Joelle Casteel.

Here are the questions that Joelle presented to us.

.* How do you understand the difference between an ownership- or a humiliation-focus in writing and/or in real life?
* If you live some level of DD, BDSM, include spanking in your relationship- do your practices focus more on ownership or humiliation?
* When you’re reading spanking fiction, do you have a preference for either of these focuses? Or does it even matter to you?
* And of course, feel free to add your own comments and questions- after all, I come to this conversation as a reader of DD/spanking fiction, but an author of BDSM fiction.

I will try to answer them and add my own thoughts into the mix. I want to start off by saying I don't think there are right or wrong answers to any of these. I think it is a matter of perspective, personal experience, and most importantly semantics. I believe the terms used today are misunderstood in the context that they are used. While I do not consider myself owned I do want to be loved, cared for, and dominated. I desire a partner that has more say so than I do, but who does it with our mutual best interests in mind. Though for me personally the term owned has negative connotations to the point of possibly being a trigger (unless used exclusively sexually) I understand that being owned to one person is the same as being under the care of a loving HOH or Dominant to another. Maybe the word means the exact same thing or is similar enough to be comparable with subtle differences.

Humiliation on the surface does not seem to be comparable to being owned. It's not an either/or situation. However, in the context of someone defining being owned as feeling loved and cared for I can see it's opposite affect. Humiliation is one of those words that are used in the spanking community that have multiple definitions. Humiliation is defined on Wikipedia as:

an abasement of pride, which creates mortification or leads to a state of being humbled or reduced to lowliness or submission. It is an emotion felt by a person whose social status has just decreased. It can be brought about through intimidation, physical or mental mistreatment or trickery, or by embarrassment if a person is revealed to have committed a socially or legally unacceptable act. Whereas humility can be sought alone as a means to de-emphasize the ego, humiliation must involve other person(s), though not necessarily directly or willingly. Acting to humiliate oneself may be linked to a personal belief (as with mortification of the flesh, with some religions), or it can be part of erotic humiliation where the belittling activity provides emotional and/or sexual arousal or heightened sensation.

While I can see where Joelle is coming from in seeing humiliation as an unloving act in reading certain aspects of the above definition. I think the fine line is where the individual person defines it and the affect it has on the person who feels humiliated. I would feel humiliated in a negative way if my husband dressed me down (called me out/lectured) in public. It would erode my trust. While the humiliation that many of us spoke about during the last round table discussion was the kind of humiliation that comes with being humbled or submitting. Certain acts of being taken in hand, disciplined, or even certain sexual acts may create a feeling of embarrassment or exposure and a deep desire to submit, but it is not the harmful type of humiliation. As long as our boundaries are being respected it is a loving gesture. 

Last discussion's topic for me falls into the deliciously humiliating realm. I may not be able to get beyond my inhibitions to try this type of play without my husband's dominant act. I personally like to be actively taken in hand. I like the dominance and the feeling of not being in control. So we add these things into the punishment category. It works because it creates a deep feeling of submission. I am not naturally submissive and I like to be made to submit. That is part of my kink. It has to be done in a firm but loving way or I would not feel safe. 

In spanking stories I like for the dominant/hoh to be firm and loving. In these stories I prefer one partner being in charge with the other partner submissive but cared for, valued, and listened to. Domestic Discipline is fraction or discipline focused and that is what I enjoy reading the most (although I do like a lot of variety.) I enjoy reading about the discipline in detail, especially spanking scenes. Mild non-con is hot to me in fiction. (The real life solution to this is consensual non-consent. Aka: a blanket permission. True real life non-con would have me calling the police!) In these stories the heroine tends to eventually if not at the time feel safe and cared for and even turned on by this. If there was ever true humiliation I would not enjoy the story, but the kind of humiliation that leads to being humbled and learning is hot to me. 

In summary I think that many differences in the community boil down a couple things. One big one is semantics. Our differing definitions and connotations of certain words. That is hugely prevalent even with those that come from similar backgrounds. Another is whether the relationship is Discipline/submission focused or Submission/sexual bdsm focused. Don't get me wrong, for many couples who practice the former it is sexual as well, but in a much more subtle way and that is a whole other topic. I think in the end when the differences come to the forefront of the conversation we have to take a step back and decide okay this might be negative for me, but is positive for them and that is okay. Live and let live and try to find your common points. We are all valid and we should stand proud in what we like and who we are. There is nothing wrong with that.

#SatSpanks 11/8/14 A Brush of Violet #CorbinsBend

Welcome to my stop on the Saturday Spankings Blog hop! This is my first Saturday Spanks since the release of my debut novella A Brush of Violet, the third book of the Corbin's Bend series second season. I am still riding high! This has definitely been a very special experience for me. When you're done reading today's snippet take a minute to visit this post to enter to win a $10 Amazon gift card! Today I'm sharing a little snippet from Violet's first disciplinary spanking. The Corbin's Bend blog is hosting me today as well for SS, so take a minute to visit there to read the first eight sentences of this scene! Also, tomorrow night Spanking Romance Reviews is hosting my release party! For more details and the link to the party visit the bottom of this page. I hope to see you there!

     “When we agreed on the rules, did you agree or not to refrain from taking work calls on the weekends?” he asked as he stood to walk a little ways behind her.

     She heard the jingle of his belt as he unfastened it sending shivers down her spine. “Yes, sir, I agreed.” Her voice came out muffled from where she had buried her head in her arms again. She gasped as she heard his belt come free of its loops with a whoosh.

     “And what did we agree would be the consequences?” The authority in his voice caused her to melt with desire and quake with fear in equal measures.

Synopsis

High powered business woman, Violet Walker, has long left her artistic days behind. That is until her best friend, Everleigh Harris, invites her to Corbin's Bend for an art festival. What Everleigh doesn't know is that Violet hasn't been able to paint a single brush stroke since turning her back on her submissive desires and spanking needs in college. When she meets charismatic and drop dead gorgeous Charles her world is turned completely upside down. Will Violet, overworked, burnt out, and in denial of her deepest wants and desires, be able to surrender when love knocks on her door?   

Charles Robinson, President of the discipline Board in Corbin’s Bend and longtime resident, adores the community he lives in and the freedom it provides for all who live there. Raised in a traditional family; love and discipline are a way of life for him. There’s nothing he wants more than a marriage just like his parents where spanking and romance go hand in hand, even if that means holding out for true love. Is Violet just the kind of woman he’s looking for?

Will Violet risk the life she’s built for herself in blood, sweat, and tears for the undeniable connection she has with Charles, the utter bliss and contentment she feels when she’s over his lap? Can Charles convince Violet she really can have it all? Will this trip be just what she needs to rekindle all that she has lost since joining the corporate world?

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A Brush of Violet Promo Tour ~ Win Prizes! #SpankingRomance #CorbinsBend

Welcome to the A Brush of Violet Promo Tour!

To celebrate the release of my debut novella, A Brush of Violet (Corbin's Bend Season 2, Book 3) I am going on a 14 day promo tour! To celebrate I am giving away a $10 gift card to Amazon. Just comment on the blogs each day and fill out the rafflecopter for your chance to win.  

Tour Schedule:

Friday 11/7 - Constance Master's Blog
Saturday 11/8 - Mary Wehr's Blog
Sunday 11/9 - Tara Finnegan's Blog
Monday 11/10 - Sue Lyndon's Blog
Tuesday 11/11 - Ruth Staunton's Blog
Wednesday 11/12 - Trent Evan's Blog
Thursday 11/13 - Kate Richard's Blog
Friday 11/14 - Liv Honeywell & Sheri Savill's Blogs
Saturday 11/15 - Felicity Nichols & Joelle Casteel's Blogs
Sunday 11/16 - Leah Smith's Blog
Monday 11/17 - Natasha Knight's Blog
Wednesday 11/19 - Patricia Green & Cara Bristol's Blog
Thursday 11/20 - Casey McKay's Blog

Check out these fun stops as well!

Interview on Addy's Couch
Interview on Katherine Deane's Blog
Review on Renee Rose's Blog
11/8 - Saturday Spanks on Corbin's Bend Blog
11/11 - Interview of Violet by Livia Grant
11/15 - Saturday Spanks on Corbin's Bend Blog

Links will go live as I receive them. More stops may be added. Check back frequently!

High powered business woman, Violet Walker, has long left her artistic days behind. That is until her best friend, Everleigh Harris, invites her to Corbin's Bend for an art festival. What Everleigh doesn't know is that Violet hasn't been able to paint a single brush stroke since turning her back on her submissive desires and spanking needs in college. When she meets charismatic and drop dead gorgeous Charles her world is turned completely upside down. Will Violet, overworked, burnt out, and in denial of her deepest wants and desires, be able to surrender when love knocks on her door? 

Charles Robinson, President of the discipline Board in Corbin’s Bend and longtime resident, adores the community he lives in and the freedom it provides for all who live there. Raised in a traditional family; love and discipline are a way of life for him. There’s nothing he wants more than a marriage just like his parents where spanking and romance go hand in hand, even if that means holding out for true love. Is Violet just the kind of woman he’s looking for?

Will Violet risk the life she’s built for herself in blood, sweat, and tears for the undeniable connection she has with Charles, the utter bliss and contentment she feels when she’s over his lap? Can Charles convince Violet she really can have it all? Will this trip be just what she needs to rekindle all that she has lost since joining the corporate world?

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Release Day! New Author Jitters - A Brush of Violet #CorbinsBend #SpankingRomance

It's release day! I can hardly believe the day is finally here! The buy links haven't gone live yet and I will be on pins and needles until they do. Thus is the plight of every author. While waiting I would love it if everyone would go over to my Goodreads page and add ABOV to their "to read" list. Also make sure to stop in on Adaline Raine's blog for my interview on Addy's Couch & my interview today on Katherine Deane's blog! The promo tour officially starts tomorrow. There will be prizes so be sure to check back!

While I wait ever so patiently I thought I'd talk a little bit about myself and how I wound up at this place in my journey. If you didn't know this already, and most of you probably do, I am a full fledged card carrying spanko. Finding my first spanking romance was probably one of the biggest thrills of my life. This was many moons ago when aol was still the main search engine everywhere on the web. It wasn't until 6 years ago that I fully started exploring what this means. It has been a fun journey! The biggest thing I've learned is to be authentically true to myself in all that I do. There is absolutely nothing wrong with letting your freak flag fly because believe it or not everyone has one. It may be different from someone else's, but it's there all the same. I say that because I've spent a lot of time hiding this aspect of myself from everyone in my life. I still don't feel like everyone needs to know all the private details, but in general this is who I am. I should be proud of that right? We all should be proud of who we are.

I was thrilled to be invited to write a book for the Corbin's Bend series. What a great way to start out your writing career! I was originally supposed to be a part of season one, but family situations arose and this had to be delayed. So the wait has been long, but the time has finally arrived! Writing for the Corbin's Bend series is like being enclosed in a warm & fuzzy bubble. The CB writing community is similar to the CB community in the books. Everyone is uber supportive, enthusiastic, and willing to work with each other. Thianna & Staci are amazing to work with. I feel completely spoiled.

Here are some random facts about me to tide you over until the book goes live:

What is your favorite genre of spanking romance to read? I love almost all genres of spanking romance but my favorites are paranormal/fantasy, sci-fi, and utopian.

What was the first book that contained spanking that you ever read? I believe it was a Johanna Lindsey novel. I could be wrong, though, because I devoured a romance novel a day when I was a teenager. There were several authors whose books contained spankings and other kink.

Who was the author of the first spanking romance that you read? Aside from the short stories I found on the web the first spanking novel I ever read was written by Carolyn Faulkner. It was such a thrill to happen across it! I wish I remembered the name of it. It was a cowboy novel. When Blushing Books opened their big store I was in heaven.

What other kinks do you like in your spanking novels? Anal play for sure (ie: ginger, plugs, temperature taking etc.) I also like a little hair pulling among other things.

What is your favorite implement: Belt

What is your favorite non-spanking punishment: Enforced nudity

Who is your favorite author from another genre? Diana Gabaldon is my favorite author of my favorite series of all time.

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High powered business woman, Violet Walker, has long left her artistic days behind. That is until her best friend, Everleigh Harris, invites her to Corbin's Bend for an art festival. What Everleigh doesn't know is that Violet hasn't been able to paint a single brush stroke since turning her back on her submissive desires and spanking needs in college. When she meets charismatic and drop dead gorgeous Charles her world is turned completely upside down. Will Violet, overworked, burnt out, and in denial of her deepest wants and desires, be able to surrender when love knocks on her door? 

Charles Robinson, President of the discipline Board in Corbin’s Bend and longtime resident, adores the community he lives in and the freedom it provides for all who live there. Raised in a traditional family; love and discipline are a way of life for him. There’s nothing he wants more than a marriage just like his parents where spanking and romance go hand in hand, even if that means holding out for true love. 

Is Violet just the kind of woman he’s looking for? Will Violet risk the life she’s built for herself in blood, sweat, and tears for the undeniable connection she has with Charles, the utter bliss and contentment she feels when she’s over his lap? Can Charles convince Violet she really can have it all? Will this trip be just what she needs to rekindle all that she has lost since joining the corporate world?

Be sure to visit for games and prizes on Nov 9th hosted by Spanking Romance Reviews!

8:00 P.M. – 9:30 P.M. EST

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#SatSpanks 11/1/14 A Brush of Violet #CorbinsBend

 

Welcome to my stop on the Saturday Spankings blog hop! With my brand spanking new novel, A Brush of Violet, coming out on November 5th I will be sharing small teasers to put us all in the mood! If you're interested in longer snippets starting at the beginning of the book, be sure to check out my WIP It Up Wednesday posts!

     He feverishly explored her body as she explored his. She worked his belt buckle loose as
he yanked her sweater over her head. Sliding her hand into his open pants, she found his long
warm manhood and caressed his balls, running her hands up and down his length, reveling in the
silky smooth texture. Shockwaves shot deep within her womb when his skilled fingers finally
found his way to her hot core. She moaned, thrashing her head as he gently rubbed her clitoris
with one hand and tweaked her nipple with the other.
     “God, you’re so wet,” he groaned.
     She grabbed at the waistband of his pants trying desperately to get them down. “I need
you inside me now.”
     “Here, let me help you with that,” he said with a grin, pulling them the rest of the way off
and quickly donning a condom.

A Brush of Violet

                                
Length: Novella
Genre: DD/spanking erotic romance
Series: Corbin's Bend

                               

High powered business woman, Violet Walker, has long left her artistic days behind. That is until her best friend, Everleigh Harris, invites her to Corbin's Bend for an art festival. What Everleigh doesn't know is that Violet hasn't been able to paint a single brush stroke since turning her back on her submissive desires and spanking needs in college. When she meets charismatic and drop dead gorgeous Charles her world is turned completely upside down. Will Violet, overworked, burnt out, and in denial of her deepest wants and desires, be able to surrender when love knocks on her door?

Charles Robinson, President of the discipline Board in Corbin’s Bend and longtime resident, adores the community he lives in and the freedom it provides for all who live there. Raised in a traditional family; love and discipline are a way of life for him. There’s nothing he wants more than a marriage just like his parents where spanking and romance go hand in hand, even if that means holding out for true love. Is Violet just the kind of woman he’s looking for?

Will Violet risk the life she’s built for herself in blood, sweat, and tears for the undeniable connection she has with Charles, the utter bliss and contentment she feels when she’s over his lap? Can Charles convince Violet she really can have it all? Will this trip be just what she needs to rekindle all that she has lost since joining the corporate world?

Coming November 2014