Tuesday, November 12, 2013

It's Love Our Lurker's Day! One Special Commenter Will Win A Prize!

When I found out about Love Our Lurker's day I loved the idea and knew I had to participate. What a cool concept. Thank you, Bonnie, for creating such a wonderful event! I used to be that lurker until recently. In fact I didn't even realize that bloggers even cared if you commented on their blogs. I know...funny thought now. I thought the idea was to just present information or stories for their readers to enjoy and then move on. I thought forums & groups were for community and blogs were for information. Wow, was I wrong! I was really missing out all of those years of sticking to the groups. Blogland is a vast community full of very special people sharing their lives, their thoughts, dreams, angst, advice and talents. 

In this last year I have been blessed to meet some simply incredible people that have become some of my dearest friends. I was blown away by the support when my Mom had a stroke this last summer. Never could I have guessed that virtual stranger's would be exactly the buoy that would keep me afloat in such a troubled time. I love that not only can we giggle over altered photos of Joe Manganiello made over to be the spanking God we all fantasize him to be, (See what I mean? Look below! Thank you, Laura for hooking all of us!) but we can lean on each other when we aren't getting enough spanking or maybe too much where we've really gotten into a heap of trouble, or we are struggling in our real life. 

I love sharing TTWD with all of you! I think it creates a very special bond. Today is all about the lurker's. If you lurk or even if it's your first time here take a second to comment and let us know that you are there! Today in your honor I am giving away a book of your choice from Blushing Books to one random commenter. If you are a lurker and never have commented on my blog before you get two entries! This drawing is open to everyone though! Be sure to leave a way for me to contact you if you win!

Here are some questions to get the comments going! Feel free to talk about anything you would like to though!

What is your favorite thing about blogland? Are you typically a lurker or a participator? 

Monday, November 11, 2013

Have You Ever Longed For a Place Where You Don’t HAVE to Dream That Spanking Will One Day Be Accepted? #CorbinsBend

Every time I think about it I get goosebumps from the top of my head to the tips of my toes! You can only imagine how excited (to put it mildly) I was to be invited to be a part of a super amazing project with 9 other incredible authors.

I am just simply giddy to announce that I have signed my very first spanking romance book contract with Lazy Day Publishing!! Not only that, but I am working on a project that encompasses a fantasy that is a spanko's DREAM COME TRUE!

I'm sworn to secrecy about all of the details, so I'm going to have to make do dangling carrots one at a time each week until we get the go ahead to spill the beans! So, here is your first carrot!

How would you like to live in a society where you are free to be yourself and all of your neighbors not only understand you but celebrate your kinks, your lifestyle, and the very heart of who you are?

Sound good to you? Then tune in for more each week about Corbin's Bend! Coming in Spring/Summer 2014!

Friday, November 8, 2013

Round Table Discussion: Feminism & Spanking

This is how I feel about my spanking needs & my freedom to express them. Having this outlet makes me feel like I have super powers. I can accomplish anything. Spanking gives me the outlet I need & focuses me in a way that I am a much more productive human being. I am grateful beyond measure that I have this option in my life. After all, even Wonder Woman needs a good spanking every now and again.

I feel like all things healthy, empowering, & good boil down to one thing…choice. Feminism has gone a long way to provide that choice to women. It was not long ago that women were owned first by their fathers and then later by their husbands. They had no choice except what was permitted by those in charge of them. They had no real voice at home or in public. There were no repercussions if either of these men hurt or abused them on any level.  While it’s true that families remained intact far more often than they do today, & it was socially acceptable for wives to obey their husbands, these two things do not equal happiness While it would be nice to have my chosen lifestyle weather in the bedroom or as a whole relationship style with my husband to be accepted and not ostracized by mainstream society I also value my choice in the matter heart and soul. I value my freedom and ability to choose what kind of life I live to the molecules of my being. Feminism has done wonders for this world.

At the root of the matter, though, I am a humanist. I value human rights above all else. I think my DD sisters who feel nostalgic for a time when tearing down your husband wasn’t socially acceptable have a point. A woman having equal rights & value does not mean that treating men with disdain should be acceptable too. Love & respect in marriage & society would be ideal. It is also what I strive for in my own life. My husband is not stupid & neither am I. Neither of us deserves to be treated as if we are.  I don’t think going back in time will solve this dilemma. It trades one set of mistreatment for another. In history there are many examples of the pendulum swinging. This is just one example of that. Many times when a group of people have been oppressed for a time once that oppression is lifted it is natural for the pendulum to swing in the other direction.  We over compensate for past slights. Eventually that pendulum will rest right in the middle. I am hoping we will find that happy medium in this realm soon.

I am so grateful that my sisters & brothers before me fought for my human rights & my rights to choose. Because of that fight I get to choose to explore a spanking fetish & lifestyle. My husband and I were able to choose to explore spanking in the bedroom & later choose to incorporate a DD lifestyle by agreement in our marriage. Surrendering in this set of circumstances makes me happy. Having my rear end reddened both in the bedroom and as discipline helps make my world go round. Just as choosing to be a stay at home mom, writer, & holistic health care practitioner have added great quality to my life. Without feminism I would have none of this.

Before I end this I also have to address the thought that is floating out there that choosing to be spanked or to submit to someone else is in some way dis-empowering to females & a setback to feminism. As a choice that is incredibly empowering to me who is to judge what empowers whom? Just as it was unfair many years ago to be controlled by one set of very limiting beliefs on what is wrong and what is right it is just as wrong today no matter which side you are on. Being taken across a man’s knee to be spanked is an intimate act that should have been agreed upon at some point previously. Consent is the key factor. Your views may not be my views. Your wants may not be my wants. That is the beauty of a free society. We have the obligation to remember to live and let live. It may not be your choice, but it may very well make someone else happy.

What I have taken out of all of this is that if I want everyone to live freely and be accepted in the life choice they make with anyone else who is also actively agreeing then I owe it to myself & the world around me to live authentically. I must be who I am not just at home, but in the world. The more we show the world how many people & how many choices there really are the more the world will come into balance.

Please visit Spanking Romance Reviews by clicking the icon below to check out our hostess, Casey McKay's main post on this fabulous topic!