Showing posts with label Domestic Discipline. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Domestic Discipline. Show all posts

Saturday, July 4, 2015

Saturday Spankings 7/4: Melissa's Saving Grace #CorbinsBend


Happy Independence Day!! Thank you, Saturday Spankings Blog & Kathryn Blake, for making this amazing blog hop happen week after week! We appreciate the hard work you do for the spanking romance community. I am super excited about this weeks Saturday Spanks because it is the last one before Melissa's Saving Grace comes out! In this next installment we will skip ahead a little bit. Please feel free to go back and look at previous Saturday Spanking posts & the A-Z Challenge post which gives an extra long excerpt. Without further ado...


     Taking a seat in the straight backed chair, he pulled her to stand between his legs. “Okay, Melissa, tell me why you’re getting this spanking.”

     She didn’t hesitate in answering, “Because I put myself in danger.”

     He nodded in agreement, “Let’s get started.” Guiding her over his lap, Jason pressed his hand to the small of Melissa’s back and locked his leg over both of hers, preemptively, to keep her from kicking. He rubbed the small of her back before moving it to her bottom. “I agree, Melissa, you put yourself in danger tonight.” He rained down spanks across her upturned bottom, scorching her
all over.


Melissa's Saving Grace
Release Date: July 8, 2015

Melissa Toselli is a wild child with a troubled past. Having been on her own since she was fifteen she is desperate to find the one who will take her into his arms, heart, and control. She has a tendency to pick all the wrong men for all the wrong reasons.

Unbeknownst to Melissa she has caught Corbin’s Bend newbie, Jason Donovan’s, attention. The wild spitfire stirred something inside of him that he could not let go. He could see right through Melissa’s devil may care attitude to the vulnerable child within who just needed someone to care for and watch out for her. She was crying out for some guidance; both the kind that would tuck her in at night and the kind that would take her over a knee for some much needed discipline and structure.

Can Jason give Melissa what she needs and tame the wild child that she is? Can he show her the way a true gentleman treats the woman he has feelings for? Will Melissa turn out to be too much for Jason to handle? Will she fall back into her old ways? Or will Jason and Melissa find exactly what their looking for in each other?

Thursday, June 4, 2015

A-Z Challenge - Domestic Discipline #SpankA2Z


For D day I thought I'd talk about Domestic Discipline. We write books about it. We read books about it. Some of us live it out in our daily live's. Some of us dream about it. One thing's for sure, though, it is a very popular topic in the spanking world. 

Although Domestic Discipline is not all about the spanking, many of this type of relationship include them from one degree to the other. DD typically involves one partner being the dominant, in charge, partner with the other being the more submissive partner. Some have established rules, while others go by the four D's (Dishonesty, Disrespect, Disobedience, & Dangerous behavior,) and still others choose a more goal oriented style of DD. 



This can be a small aspect of the relationship all the way to an all encompassing aspect. As someone who has been in this dynamic with my husband for 6 years it has been all the way from one extreme to the other depending on what's happening in our lives to our mentality at the time. I remember when I stumbled upon DD what seems like a million years ago it was like a light bulb going off. It encompassed everything I wanted in a spanking relationship. I always had a need that I could not completely identify. DD fit that need to a T. 



It gave a purpose to my fetish (I never would have admitted that it was a fetish back then & I definitely thought DD & the fetish were mutually exclusive...not true!) I have always been a self help type of person, always seeking to improve myself. Like any marriage we needed some work in the communication department. I definitely had qualities & habits I wanted to improve on. It took many years before we actually incorporated it into our lives, actually until I fully admitted to my husband that I needed this. When I finally did we jumped in with both feet. It was a lot harder than I thought it would be, but also a lot more satisfying.



We had the typical two steps forward one step back. At the end of the first year I can say with all honesty we had never been happier. Our communication skills had gone through the roof. I have a bit of a homemaker fetish (and a lot of room for improvement,) so that's where we started along with respect. Some years we have had full boat DD and others it is mostly play. What I've learned is that this is now a part of who we are. Even if life gets in the way (boy has it!) we will circle back eventually. That realization has made me very secure. 

What parts of DD appeal to you? 
What parts do you think you would struggle with?
I'd love to hear your input!




Saturday, September 13, 2014

#SatSpanks - A Brush of Violet


Welcome to my very first time participating in the Saturday Spankings blog hop! I will be sharing from my upcoming Corbin's Bend novella, A Brush of Violet. In this scene Charles is introducing Violet to a special spanking room contained within the Corbin's Bend clubhouse. 


“In most cases it would be the strap or tawse, the paddle, or if you were especially naughty, the cane.” Her breathing quickened as she imagined her bottom getting stripe after stripe laid into it after some particularly bad offense. She couldn’t help but wiggle her bottom at the thought. She wanted to be spanked so bad she could taste it.

“Of course you would not have these clothes on. You would be fully nude, exposed. Naughty girls don’t get to keep their clothes on while being spanked.  Violet, do you want to be spanked?” he asked as he rubbed circles on her behind.



A Brush of Violet

Length: Novella
Genre: DD/spanking erotic romance
Series: Corbin's Bend


High powered business woman, Violet Walker, has long left her artistic days behind. That is until her best friend, Everleigh Harris, invites her to Corbin's Bend for an art festival. What Everleigh doesn't know is that Violet hasn't been able to paint a single brush stroke since turning her back on her submissive desires and spanking needs in college. When she meets charismatic and drop dead gorgeous Charles her world is turned completely upside down. Will Violet, overworked, burnt out, and in denial of her deepest wants and desires, be able to surrender when love knocks on her door?

Charles Robinson, President of the discipline Board in Corbin’s Bend and longtime resident, adores the community he lives in and the freedom it provides for all who live there. Raised in a traditional family; love and discipline are a way of life for him. There’s nothing he wants more than a marriage just like his parents where spanking and romance go hand in hand, even if that means holding out for true love. Is Violet just the kind of woman he’s looking for?

Will Violet risk the life she’s built for herself in blood, sweat, and tears for the undeniable connection she has with Charles, the utter bliss and contentment she feels when she’s over his lap? Can Charles convince Violet she really can have it all? Will this trip be just what she needs to rekindle all that she has lost since joining the corporate world?


Coming November 2014



Available only until October 3, 2014. Special pre-release package price on all NINE books in the Second Season of Corbin's Bend at 33% discount. (Regular price: 44.91 - Discount price - 29.99) Nine great full-length books by nine of our most popular authors at a serious discount. Package includes invitation to a private Facebook party with great prizes. 




Friday, September 5, 2014

End of #SummerSpanks: Spanking Romance & Prizes!

Summer Spanks: Last Flings & Lessons Learned

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Welcome to our Summer Spanks blog hop where we provide free spanking stories and the chance to win prizes on every blog! We also have some wonderful Grand Prizes including:


Rules

Follow the links to read the blogs–comment on the blog to prove you were there (or answer the participant’s specific question, if they have one). COPY AND PASTE COMMENTS WILL BE DISQUALIFIED! Each comment earns you one entry for the grand prize. You must provide your email address for your entry to count. Individual pages may also have their own form of entry (Rafflecopter, etc) for additional chances to win prizes. Enjoy all the free stories, posts, & fun!  Prizes will be announced on Tuesday, Sept. 9, 2014.
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Welcome to my the Summer Spanks blog hop! I will be giving away a spanking romance of your choice to one lucky commenter. Read my story below and answer the question  I have posted at the end in the comments. Be sure to leave your email address for your entry to count! Enjoy the hop!

The Professor and the Dean




Salt air ruffled through Amelia’s sun bleached locks as she greedily soaked up the last of the day’s rays. Breathing a deep sigh of resignation as the sun bid its nightly adieu dropping behind the horizon; she gathered her belongings reluctant to leave her time in paradise. A professor at Saint Mary’s University in California, school started tomorrow, and she wasn’t ready to let go of the carefree days of the summer months.
The eagerness that had consumed her in the early years of teaching had not shown itself so far to prep her for the coming days of classes, PowerPoint’s, and students. Slipping into her car she drove along the rock lined road toward her home in the city. Tomorrow was going to come early, too early.
Amelia counted down the minutes of each day as the first week of school crawled by. So far the routine of the school year eluded her.  Eager students filled her classroom ready to learn from the famed English professor. At the young age of twenty six, nine years earlier, she had topped the best seller list with the novel she had written straight out of college with stars in her eyes and romance in her veins. Whatever they expected when enrolling in her class they clearly were not getting it. Disgruntled whispers echoed off the walls as she turned her class over to her assistant for the third time that week. She turned to gaze out the window, losing herself to daydreams of all that she would rather be doing, as the assistant droned on.
At the end of the day, just as she was packing her briefcase to leave for the day, Dean Warwick strode purposefully into her classroom. “Professor Dunn,” his voice came out crisp and succinct, “I would like to see you in my office before you leave for the day.” His gray eyes pierced her with a look that broached no argument.
“I’ll be right there sir.” She replied in confusion. Furrowing her brow she racked her brain considering what the Dean might want to talk to her about. It was unusual that he would choose to speak to her one on one. He was known for keeping all important business strictly to faculty meetings once a month. Unnerved, she stuffed essay papers into her briefcase and hurried after him.
            She walked tentatively into Dean Warwick’s large office taking in the dark mahogany furniture and masculine décor’.  A line of paddles in varying sizes lined one of the walls; a lone leather tawse hung among them. She swallowed audibly as nervousness came suddenly over her. Reminding herself that those were for the students not faculty, she gave herself a shake turning her attention to the dean. Dressed in a fitted light gray suit that matched his eyes, Dean Warwick was good looking in a way that was almost intimidating. His sharp eyes looking upon her made her feel like he could see right through her in the most unsettling way. She squirmed under his steady gaze.
            “Please close the door and take a seat,” he instructed gesturing to the chair directly in front of his desk. She did what he asked smoothing her black pencil skirt as she sat.
“Ms. Dunn, do you value your job?”
“Ye-Yes, sir, of course I do.” Jolted by his question she stammered.  
“Unfortunately, your performance this week does not indicate that you do.” He admonished bluntly. “I have seen three separate complaints that you have come to class unprepared and your assistant has taken to teaching your classes. Is this true?”
She grappled to defend herself. Knowing there was no defense for her horrible behavior she hung her head as shame cascaded over her. “Yes, sir, it’s true.” She said her voice barely a whisper.
“Do you know how we handle students who come to class unprepared?” He asked. Her eyes shot up to the paddles on the wall. “Yes, Amelia, they go skirt up over my desk and they are paddled until their bottoms are as bright as a ripe tomato.” She gave a little gasp as the image played out inside her head.  “How do you think it looks when their teacher is the one not doing her homework, coming to class unprepared? What precedent does that set for your students, Amelia?” His voice lectured in quiet stern tones.
She squirmed uncomfortably in her seat mortified at being called out for her behavior and even more mortified that she had behaved that way to begin with. “A bad precedent,” she groaned.
“You, Miss, deserve a serious bare bottom spanking,” he said piercing her anew with his gaze.
“Yes, sir,” She agreed as her bottom clenched involuntarily.
He cocked an eyebrow at that. “Do you agree, Professor Dunn, that the best course of action for you is a hard bare bottom spanking?” She gave a slight nod in agreement.
            “Very well,” he said briskly, standing. “You’ve performed well up until this point so I am disinclined to terminate you. I think a spanking and possibly a good tawsing is exactly what is called for in this situation. Please stand.” He barked.
            She sprung from her chair hurrying to obey.
“Lift your skirt and remove your panties.” He commanded as he walked around the desk. “I think we’re going to start with an old fashioned over the knee spanking.”
            She swallowed audibly at his command to remove her panties. Her hands shook as she lifted her skirt high above her hips. She slipped her fingers beneath the elastic of her black silk panties sliding them down her thighs and over her feet. She made no attempt to cover her nakedness from the Dean’s view knowing the humiliation of it was part of her punishment.
            He held her wrist in a vice grip as he propelled her across his lap. She sucked in a breath as she felt his steel muscled thighs under the stomach.  He blazed her bottom up one side and down the other. She squirmed, gasping, and then shrieked as he turned his attention to her thighs. “I’d keep it down, Ms. Dunn if you do not want anyone who is left in the school to know that you’ve been a naughty little girl.”
            Hot liquid pooled unexpectedly between her thighs at the thought of someone overhearing her spanking. Still she quickly muffled any further noises by biting her lip as he continued to rain smacks on her burning thighs. Her legs kicked struggling earnestly against the assault on her bottom. Her mind whirled as she tried to make sense of these conflicting feelings. He gave her five more hard spanks before helping her to her feet. She sniffled loudly, wiping the tears that had spilled onto her cheeks with the back of her hand. Noticing her tears the dean took out a white handkerchief and patted the tears away. His hand cradled her face in a tender moment. Her heart sped as he leaned close wiping a stray tear with his thumb hesitating for a lingering moment before pulling away and returning to his previous strictly authoritative manner.
“You are to report to my office every morning by 7:15 for the rest of this month. You will then proceed to teach your days classes after a thorough bottom warming. Hopefully that will remind you to keep your mind on your work. If any of your previous behavior resurfaces you can expect a very hard paddling followed directly by the tawse. Do we understand each other?” He asked, eyes straying south for one moment too long giving him away.
“Yes, sir,” she said, her nipples pebbling against the fabric of her blouse. She had a feeling her bottom was going to be very sore by the time the month was through, but she certainly wasn’t going to be bored for a single second of it.

I hope you've enjoyed my stop on the Summer Spanks Blog Hop! Be sure to follow me on Facebook, Twitter, & sign up for blog updates! Don't miss out on any of the thoroughly entertaining stops on the linky list below! Here is your prize entry question:

If you had been spanked in school what would you have been spanked for?

My answer is that I would have definitely been spanked often for forgetting to turn my homework in! What about you?



Saturday, July 12, 2014

Book Release Party for Coach’s Discipline by Katherine Deane - It's Here! It's Here! It's Here! Squeal!


Join us for fun and prizes! Book Release Party for Coach’s Discipline by Katherine Deane




Spanking Romance Reviews is now hosting Book Release Parties! Join us Saturday, July 12th at noon EST on our Facebook page for the book launch party for Coach’s Discipline by Katherine Deane.

Prizes include books by Cara Bristol, Maren Smith, Natasha Knight, Patricia Green, Casey McKay, Tara Finnegan, Etta Stark, Renee Rose and more!


The Coach’s Discipline by Katherine Deane

 
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Claire Jacobs always dreamed of making it to the Olympic Trials in the marathon. Unfortunately, she has a habit of getting in her own way. Enter Nick Fox, a no-nonsense coach, willing to use unconventional methods to bring her in line. Traumatized by her last coach and still recovering from self-destructive habits, Claire finds it hard to trust Nick’s authority about what she can and can’t handle on the trails. Still, her attraction for him deepens, even when she discovers he believes in good old-fashioned spanking as a method of correction.As Nick spends more time with Claire, she enchants him with her drive and deep commitment to help her fellow runners. But when she gets into an argument with a teammate, he realizes he only has one option—to give the talented woman he cares about the first spanking of her life, a spanking that is not going to be fun for either of them.



Claire and Nick grow closer and she comes to crave Nick’s dominance and direction. Discovering the emotional healing and strength to succeed during training, she moves past her shyness and self-doubt to step into a leading role with the young women on the team. But when team politics, jealousy and misunderstandings create drama, will she revert back to her old pattern of running away? Or can she learn to trust in love and race toward her goals with an open heart?



Publisher’s Note: Coach’s Discipline is an erotic romance novel that includes spanking, including domestic discipline in a contemporary setting, anal play, sexual scenes, elements of BDSM, and more. If such material offends you, please don’t buy this book.


Available for sale Today!



Friday, December 13, 2013

Round Table Discussion: Domestic Discipline



Round Table Discussion: Domestic Discipline

I have spanking desires. I always have. I have been intrigued by DD (although it wasn’t called that yet at that point) since I was just barely an adult. Having a worthy male (my Husband) master me is irresistible. I long to be swept off of my feet and over his knee if need be. I like the idea that he can help me let go of everything that weighs on my mind all of the time, that he can help center me in a way that I have trouble doing for myself when left to my own devices. I also love that when he does “master” me all of that to do list falls to the wayside and I can focus 100% on him. Otherwise the “to do” list wins all too often. Sad but true.

My husband and I have been practicing DD for 5 ½ years. I think the way it looks in our relationship has changed every single year, sometimes consciously and sometimes subconsciously. At first we were all in. I surrendered to him completely. I vowed to obey him 100% all the time. We started with a few laid out rules and worked our way to more. By the time a year was up we had a nice list going. We had weekly maintenance & we worked discipline out in various ways until we found what worked for us. Weekly maintenance helped us get used to spanking/being spanked. For awhile that is when discipline happened as well. We used a penny jar system. If I earned a spanking I would have to add a penny to our jar. Pennies were worth one minute of spanking each. As soon as we were able we settled up.

CDD appealed to me the most during this time because there were so many amazing resources to read and work on. I have always been someone who needs both the head and the heart to work in synch (and let’s not forget the bottom.) I needed to study, read, & work through material to put my focus where I wanted it to be. Christianity has an abundance of resources. Mainstream did not. For two years we were well seated in the CDD label. At a point we were ready to expand our horizons. We were changing (my groups were changing too) & we were exploring new aspects of DD. We at that point moved on to LDD (Loving Domestic Discipline, which has evolved so much since the term was first coined.)

DD is a three-fold flame for me. First it creates order out of chaos for me. It keeps me well grounded and motivates me to physically “do life.” Secondly, the intimacy it creates is intoxicating. DD has enhanced our authentic communication, healed & eliminated any walls that we have built and quickly keeps new walls from forming, and allows an outlet for passion that builds up inside.

Every year new levels and layers are revealed of needs that can be met with DD. Some years it is household functions, others it is peeling back the layers & healing parts of us that are hurt or broken and creating new & healthier habits and still other years our focus is our sexuality and intimacy. Sometimes it’s all of this at once and others DD is just running in the background habits so ingrained that we don’t even realize that DD is still functioning, but yet it is there all the while.

I no longer label myself. We are not cdd, ldd, bdsm, or anything else. We are Jeff & Corinne. We use DD in our marriage & we incorporate all sorts of other things in for fun as well. That does not define us though. In all honestly I think labels shmabels. At some point labeling yourself only boxes you in. At first what felt freeing and like a light bulb moment becomes restrictive. As you explore yourself and your partner you find that you want to explore and incorporate things that don’t fit inside the box (a self imposed box might I add.) My advice at that point is NOT to compare yourself to others, but to get rid of the dang box!

If you want to mix sex and discipline there is nothing wrong with that! Conversely if it works better for you to keep it completely separate then by all means that is what you should do. If you want to add in butt plugs, ginger root, and frontal spanking there is nothing to stop you but yourself. Those who tell you it is wrong or not DD are wrong themselves. It just isn’t for them which is more than okay too. If corner time feels abusive then do not use it. If writing lines in addition to a spanking is the only way to really get through then do it. You can have as tame of a DD relationship as you desire or as spicy. And even if you play and are a spanko at heart you can still enjoy a very successful DD relationship. It’s all in the way that you map it out. If you only use spanking twice a year, yes, you are still in a DD relationship. It is normal to go through long periods of time without any discipline or even mention of DD. Life happens. I wouldn’t stress about it. It will circle back around.

DD does not solve all of life’s maladies. In fact it can become a malady itself. What I think DD helps accomplish is good communication skills. It lends a hand to breaking down walls of old outdated self preservation & leads to true, honest communication about everything. As you practice, this becomes something that is ingrained and bleeds into all aspects of your marriage and life. In order for DD to be successful you must communicate. All of those old habits of communication have to be reworked, relearned & replaced with healthy habits. Boy that is hard work! Worth it though! If you think that all of a sudden he is going to become the hoh of your dreams and give you rules & take you over his knee and everything is going to be perfect then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. There are moments that will come straight from your dreams. However the rest of it is let me say it again, hard work.

He has to get used to spanking the love of his life which is something he has been taught from day one never to do. You have to learn to submit when you absolutely do not want to and let me tell you that isn’t easy. You also may think you know how you will react to being told what to do and spanked, but you will surprise yourself from time to time. I know I have. Never fear you will get through these humps. The most important thing is to be honest and be willing to hear the other person out. It’s possible that he’s going to spank too hard (or too soft,) that you will revert to childlike behavior (this seems to be something that many of us go through for a bit. Trust me it will get old even to you,) he will forget that he’s in charge; you will forget that he’s in charge, and you both will fall back into old habits. There will be times where you both get it perfectly and it will be everything you ever imagined and more. DD can be such a beautiful thing. It is a very romantic way of life at its best. To me it’s worth it every day of the week.


Be sure to visit Spanking Romance Reviews to see my host post & check out the rest of the discussion at the links below!


Sunday, December 1, 2013

Two Fun Advent Calendar Events & Spankings Both Fun & Not So Fun



I have always been fascinated by the idea of an Advent Calendar. I was never blessed with the experience of having my own Advent Calendar growing up & was always a bit envious of my friends who had them. My days of longing are over & it was well worth the wait. Anastasia Vitsky of Governing Ana is holding Ana's Advent Calendar today through December 25th! There are tons of absolutely incredible prizes up for grabs. There will be both fun and meaningful posts, guest bloggers, and so much you will not want to miss (be sure to sign up on her sign up page.) It will be a treat every day!

If that's not exciting enough Kenzie from Red Bottoms & TTWD is hosting a very special Spanko Advent Calendar that is bound to make a memorable December. It is truly a spanko's dream!Visit her blog to check out her advent calendar now & each day through the 25th for a special spanko activity. Be sure to come back and let everyone know how your Advent events went! 

This month is bound to be full of fun & possibly not so fun spankings for me. My husband has agreed to keep me accountable for writing a specified amount every single day. Since I work best under deadlines this is bound to work very well for me. Although maybe not for my bottom. In addition to this he has made his own decree that I must have a meal plan each week and super on the table each night. No more winging it or eating out all the time. I will admit I have been slacking in this area. It started with a busy sports season for my son & then just turned into habit. I'm gleeful to take this challenge, though, because there is nothing I love more than getting & staying back on track....family meals and all!

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

It's Love Our Lurker's Day! One Special Commenter Will Win A Prize!


When I found out about Love Our Lurker's day I loved the idea and knew I had to participate. What a cool concept. Thank you, Bonnie, for creating such a wonderful event! I used to be that lurker until recently. In fact I didn't even realize that bloggers even cared if you commented on their blogs. I know...funny thought now. I thought the idea was to just present information or stories for their readers to enjoy and then move on. I thought forums & groups were for community and blogs were for information. Wow, was I wrong! I was really missing out all of those years of sticking to the groups. Blogland is a vast community full of very special people sharing their lives, their thoughts, dreams, angst, advice and talents. 

In this last year I have been blessed to meet some simply incredible people that have become some of my dearest friends. I was blown away by the support when my Mom had a stroke this last summer. Never could I have guessed that virtual stranger's would be exactly the buoy that would keep me afloat in such a troubled time. I love that not only can we giggle over altered photos of Joe Manganiello made over to be the spanking God we all fantasize him to be, (See what I mean? Look below! Thank you, Laura for hooking all of us!) but we can lean on each other when we aren't getting enough spanking or maybe too much where we've really gotten into a heap of trouble, or we are struggling in our real life. 








I love sharing TTWD with all of you! I think it creates a very special bond. Today is all about the lurker's. If you lurk or even if it's your first time here take a second to comment and let us know that you are there! Today in your honor I am giving away a book of your choice from Blushing Books to one random commenter. If you are a lurker and never have commented on my blog before you get two entries! This drawing is open to everyone though! Be sure to leave a way for me to contact you if you win!

Here are some questions to get the comments going! Feel free to talk about anything you would like to though!

What is your favorite thing about blogland? Are you typically a lurker or a participator? 


Friday, November 8, 2013

Round Table Discussion: Feminism & Spanking




This is how I feel about my spanking needs & my freedom to express them. Having this outlet makes me feel like I have super powers. I can accomplish anything. Spanking gives me the outlet I need & focuses me in a way that I am a much more productive human being. I am grateful beyond measure that I have this option in my life. After all, even Wonder Woman needs a good spanking every now and again.

I feel like all things healthy, empowering, & good boil down to one thing…choice. Feminism has gone a long way to provide that choice to women. It was not long ago that women were owned first by their fathers and then later by their husbands. They had no choice except what was permitted by those in charge of them. They had no real voice at home or in public. There were no repercussions if either of these men hurt or abused them on any level.  While it’s true that families remained intact far more often than they do today, & it was socially acceptable for wives to obey their husbands, these two things do not equal happiness While it would be nice to have my chosen lifestyle weather in the bedroom or as a whole relationship style with my husband to be accepted and not ostracized by mainstream society I also value my choice in the matter heart and soul. I value my freedom and ability to choose what kind of life I live to the molecules of my being. Feminism has done wonders for this world.



At the root of the matter, though, I am a humanist. I value human rights above all else. I think my DD sisters who feel nostalgic for a time when tearing down your husband wasn’t socially acceptable have a point. A woman having equal rights & value does not mean that treating men with disdain should be acceptable too. Love & respect in marriage & society would be ideal. It is also what I strive for in my own life. My husband is not stupid & neither am I. Neither of us deserves to be treated as if we are.  I don’t think going back in time will solve this dilemma. It trades one set of mistreatment for another. In history there are many examples of the pendulum swinging. This is just one example of that. Many times when a group of people have been oppressed for a time once that oppression is lifted it is natural for the pendulum to swing in the other direction.  We over compensate for past slights. Eventually that pendulum will rest right in the middle. I am hoping we will find that happy medium in this realm soon.

I am so grateful that my sisters & brothers before me fought for my human rights & my rights to choose. Because of that fight I get to choose to explore a spanking fetish & lifestyle. My husband and I were able to choose to explore spanking in the bedroom & later choose to incorporate a DD lifestyle by agreement in our marriage. Surrendering in this set of circumstances makes me happy. Having my rear end reddened both in the bedroom and as discipline helps make my world go round. Just as choosing to be a stay at home mom, writer, & holistic health care practitioner have added great quality to my life. Without feminism I would have none of this.

Before I end this I also have to address the thought that is floating out there that choosing to be spanked or to submit to someone else is in some way dis-empowering to females & a setback to feminism. As a choice that is incredibly empowering to me who is to judge what empowers whom? Just as it was unfair many years ago to be controlled by one set of very limiting beliefs on what is wrong and what is right it is just as wrong today no matter which side you are on. Being taken across a man’s knee to be spanked is an intimate act that should have been agreed upon at some point previously. Consent is the key factor. Your views may not be my views. Your wants may not be my wants. That is the beauty of a free society. We have the obligation to remember to live and let live. It may not be your choice, but it may very well make someone else happy.


What I have taken out of all of this is that if I want everyone to live freely and be accepted in the life choice they make with anyone else who is also actively agreeing then I owe it to myself & the world around me to live authentically. I must be who I am not just at home, but in the world. The more we show the world how many people & how many choices there really are the more the world will come into balance.

Please visit Spanking Romance Reviews by clicking the icon below to check out our hostess, Casey McKay's main post on this fabulous topic!



Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Breeder Release Day Contest...Not One, Not Two, but Three Giveaways!!



Today is the day we have all been waiting for....Breeder's release day!!! I feel the anticipation down to my toes! To put the icing on the cake you  will have the opportunity to enter not one, not two, but THREE GIVEAWAYS! My contest for one book off of Cara's back list will be taking entries through Thursday. Remember you can come back every day for new entries. In addition to this Cara is having TWO giveaways on her blog in celebration of the release. The first is simple. Go to Cara's blog and leave a comment to win a $10 Starbucks gift card. In addition to that she is having a HUGE review contest! See details below & stay tuned for my Breeder review as well!


You could win a $50 Amazon gift certificate by entering the “Breeder Reader Contest” hosted by author Cara Bristol to celebrate the release of her new science fiction erotic romance, Breeder. To enter the contest, post a review of Breeder on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Loose Id, Goodreads, or ARe and email the link to Cara Bristol by October 31, 2013.

Contest rules:

  • You will receive one contest entry for each review you post – two entries for an Amazon review. If you post all five places you’ll have six chances to win.
  • The review must be posted by October 31, 2013 to be eligible for the prize.
  • You must email Cara the links to the reviews. Send them to carabristol50 (at) yahoo (dot) com and put BREEDER READER CONTEST in the subject line.
  • The winner will be chosen by random drawing (random.org) and announced on November 1, 2013.
  • The winner will receive a $50 Amazon gift certificate.
  • For more information, refer to Cara Bristol’s blog.



Breeder blurb:

To secure his legacy, Commander Dak, a ruling Alpha of planet Parseon, purchases Omra, a breeder slave. He intends to impregnate her, produce a son, and hand her off to his anointed beta partner. As Dak and Omra discover a sexual bliss banned by law, he begins to question Protocol-sanctioned male domination, causing him to jeopardize his command and endanger the life of the woman he has come to love.

Breeder explores the concepts of gender roles and social prohibitions against deviant behavior. It includes graphic M/F and some M/M sexual content and domestic discipline.





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Thursday, September 19, 2013

Round Table Discussion – Submission Is the Definition of Sexy

submission is the definition of sexyI am so excited for us all to come together again as a spanking community for week two of the Round Table Discussion - Community, Spanking, & More! This week our very special host is Natasha Knight who is one of my favorite authors and dear friends! This week we were asked to define what submission means to us. Be forewarned, this is a bit steamier than you may be used to from me. :-)

I am not a natural submissive. I am the master of my own mind, ruler of my body, independent, spirited, and I like to be in control. It takes a special touch to draw out my submissive state. It takes a worthy touch. I need to be able to respect him in order to submit to him. Once he has that respect all it takes is a hand in my hair drawing my head back commanding my attention and a look in his eye. It’s a little predatory, a little no nonsense, and sexy as hell!

There is nothing like the dance of a dominant and a submissive. To me it’s intoxicating. For me submission is a huge gift and it is also a very primal thing. Not just anyone can bring out this gift and take use of it. My inner submissive can only be called up by her exact dominant match. There is an air and energy to it, and there is almost a scent. Once called up she will be that essence of sheer female to his essence of sheer male.

If he can bring it out I will do anything that he says. My inner submissive finds his inner dominant worthy and vice versa. Submitting to a man who can command my very soul is the greatest privilege on earth. I will suck his cock, offer my ass, and do anything he bids. He is my Master.

I have to say there is a little something (or a big something) to being made to submit. Punishment makes my knees go weak. I just can’t help but test the boundaries every now and then. I crave the feel of him making me submit to him. I enjoy the chase. There is nothing more humbling or that will make me feel more submissive than being ordered panties down over his lap for a sound bare bottom spanking, hopefully with a hairbrush in his hand.

In fact that’s why domestic discipline works so well for me. When doing the dishes and paying the bills is a constant turn on and I have an intimacy with my Husband others long to have then something must be working. When I test those boundaries and he takes me in hand I will lovingly serve every one of his needs and lavish him with my adoration and passion for him. Until the next time I need to be taken in hand and then the primal dance begins again.

Now make sure to visit Spanking Romance Reviews for more of the Round Table Discussion on what submission means to them! We have some amazing guest bloggers that you don't want to miss! Click the graphic below and enjoy!

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